May 8, 2018
When I did a poll on what people would want to read in my blogs, I asked people send me what they wanted if I wasn’t giving it as an option. I got one direct message. I was a little discouraged but I also saw how many people voted on the polls and how evenly split they were so I’ve been writing for each topic. But, I’ve put the one suggested topic on the back burner because I didn’t know how to respond. “I would love to read your wisdom on how to find balance between work and the rest of your life.” Woah.
First of all, I never consider myself to have wisdom and second, I don’t feel like I’ve done this long enough to truly know what work-life balance looks like. I’m balancing myself, just me. I don’t have a family to feed, a pet to walk, a 9-5 job to tend to, it’s just me. I have a life though, don’t get me wrong. My responsibilities tripled within one month when I moved into my first “adult” apartment with one of my friends from college. I make sure to make time for her, Huck, still seeing my family every week, relaxing, exercising, grocery shopping, girls night out, errands, 1-2 more jobs, making my meals and making time for myself. That’s what my life looks like, it’s not like most of the other creative business owners I know, so how will my “wisdom” effect you? That’s what I’ve been thinking the last few weeks.
I’ve also been pondering on the idea that if you take a look at Instagram, my Facebook page, my living room, and my website it probably looks like I have balance down to a very strategic mathematical equation that keeps everything in check. News flash: if you take a look at my room every Monday morning, the side table next to me while I work, the inside of my car, or my inbox, you’ll see that I most definitely do not. In fact, I stink a math, like really badly. You can get validation from anyone who has known me longer than a month about all things above.
So how do I really balance it all? I designate one day a week to clear my inbox, straighten my room, clean out my car, and check off all of the to-dos on my list. Right now, this takes place on Mondays and whatever doesn’t get done, has to be done by Tuesday at 12:30. That’s my rule for me. I do this work on the comfort of my couch in the most relaxing living room I’ve ever spent time in. The plants on the coffee table and next to the TV bring life inside, the candles make the room smell heavenly, the latest Netflix show I’m binging is playing in the background, the blinds to our porch are opened letting in all the natural light and our gallery wall just makes me happy. I stop working on Monday evenings by 8 pm usually because that’s when my time and roommate time takes place- The Voice comes on at 8. The computer gets put away, a drink or sweet treat takes the place of a pen and my Spektrum glasses are replaced with my real glasses.
I truly enjoy these days. I feel so accomplished at the end of the night despite the things that happen during the day that could easily make me quit. This passed Monday those things would have been not being able to run because I tweaked my back, not taking the fish out of the freezer which completely changed the dinner plans, somehow losing the lighter for the candles, not taking my allergy medicine and immediately getting a pollen headache and getting turned down for a job. You don’t see these things on Instagram though because honestly who wants to post their “failures” on a social media platform for hundreds or thousands of people to see? Instead of quitting for the day by noon, I got it done, worked a little later, and when it was finished, I poured a glass of rose AND got two dark chocolate honey mints (if you live near a trader joes, you must try these)!
So, I guess my wisdom for you on how I handle work-life balance would be this:
That’s my wisdom. I may be 22 but I think we can all relate to at least a couple of these. Happy May, my friends. Lets Hustle.